Optimism

I have been meaning to blog (redundant excuse), but I have literally been so busy lately, that I barely had time to relax.

To start with, me and my daughter's father have been able to have a civil conversation without name calling, etc. The divorce will be finalized May 1st and that will be the last time I have to go to court unless he or myself decides we want to modify anything. It's such a big stress relief to know that its almost over. March went by in what felt like a week, so I'm hoping the same goes for April.

My lease is up in August and I am already looking for a house to rent. I've lived in an apartment before and even then said I wouldn't ever live in another apartment. But things happen and it was the only option. The area I live in has some of the best schools in the state, so I don't plan on renting very far away from here. There are a ton of quiet and beautiful neighborhoods nearby, so once it gets closer to August, I will defiently be doing more physical house hunting versus looking on the internet.
Even with only one kid, a 2 bedroom apartment is just not cutting it. Especially the fact that we don't have a backyard for Lily and our dog to play in. I'm anxious to be able to decorate and have more privacy.

Once again, I'm still not in school. Lily ended up getting a viral rash from a upper respitatory infection and then on top of that, I had to get my car fixed which takes 5 business days. So the second I get my car back, I will be getting a sitter so that I can make my way over to ASU to talk to a counselor and hopefully apply then and there. I'm sure there will be a ton of paperwork since I will be applying for grants and child care, but I am more than ready to get the ball rolling.

I don't even know where to begin with updates on Lily. She is the funniest, most outgoing little girl with an even bigger personality. She is talking non-stop, says "hi" and "bye" to everyone whenever we go out and love to laugh.
She is obsessed with purses, necklaces and shoes. She was never a picky eater, but lately seems to be that way. She still loves her milk, but one of her favorite things is ice, so I will put a bunch of ice in a cup with a little bit of water and she goes crazy.
She has also recently started to repeat alot of things I say. For instance, yesterday I asked my dog if he wanted to go outside and Lily responded, "wanna go side?" It was so cute and I love hearing her put sentences together.
Lily is either going to be a dancer or a softball pitcher. The second she hears music, she goes crazy and can dance for hours. She loves playing fetch with our dog and throws things when she has a temper tantrum. Let me tell you, that girl can throw. She has a good arm on her... it can be painful.

She's still a mommy's girl and seems to be extra clingy lately. Whenever she wants something or just wants my attention, she yells "ma, ma, ma!"

Here are a few recent pictures of my big girl :)

More Updates

Not anything really interesting going on in my life, or anything worth blogging about, but I'm bored so I am anyway ;)

Lily's dad's lawyer finally filed the paperwork needed for me to get child support. I guess 5 months is considered fast for her (how professional, right?). Well I called the court house today for what feels like the 100th time in the last couple of months. I was trying to see if they had an atlas number yet, but the clerk told me to call back Monday and they would have it. After I get the atlas number, I am going to figure out where the money is being sent to see if he has actually been making payments or just telling me he has. I'm hoping that I will get an estimate of when to start expecting money.

I am also going to be going to New Mexico for a few months while a good friend goes to basic training and tech school. I will be watching her two kids rent free and her and her husband will pay me for my time. I'm extremely excited. Although New Mexico is not anywhere near the top of my list for places to visit again, it will be a little vacation for me. I will be done with all this court bullshit and be able to celebrate with two old friends. It will be a reunion to say the least!!

I have been working out alot and started a new diet. So far, so good. I'm trying to get fit and toned for the summer!! I'm not big or anything, but I'm definitely out of shape.

I went blonde a few months ago so that I could dye my hair purple. I don't know how people say blondes have more fun, because I was not lol. It's drying and damaging and very high maintenance. I'm trying to grow my hair out, so I decided to go back brunette. So glad I made that decision because my hair is SO much healthier and shiny. I've been taking vitamins and trying DIY hair masks. I'm in love with one I came across on youtube and will be dedicating my next post strictly to that...so stay tuned and have a wonderful day!!

Xoxo
Trish

Holidays, Come and Go Please!

I do not want to sound like  a party pooper, but I am so ready for the holiday season to be over and done with. We aren't going to be doing much this year with the financial situation and going to court once a month. I'm ready to go back to school and for the stores to not be crowded anymore haha.

Tomorrow is Thanksgiving. I'm going to be making the essentials, but that's about it. Last year, I thought that by this time everything would be completed settled and I'd be able to go all out, BUT unfortunetly it's not that way whatsoever, so we will have to wait until next year. I'm not even going to be putting up a tree for Christmas. This apartment just isn't big enough and with Lily the age she is, I know that having a tree up in the first place would be a horrible idea. Next year she will be old enough to help with decorations, etc. Plus, by this time next year, I won't be in this apartment and don't even plan to be in this state.

I know I am not the only person that feels this way, but this year has gone by in the blink of the eye. Thanksgiving is tomorrow, then next month it will be Christmas and then BAM! It's 2013. Where did the time go!? People aren't lying when they say after you graduate, time goes by fast. I think it goes by even faster after having a child.

I'm still in the processing of researching the area I'll be moving to. It's going to be a surprise, so I won't even mention the state until I know for sure. I need to look up schools for both me and Lily as well as the neighborhood, crime rate and all that other jazz. I will be going back to school in January and plan to keep going even when we move. If I have to take classes online in between, then I'm totally fine with that. As long as I'm going!

I had court a couple of weeks ago and it went pretty well. He never called in, and since that was the second time, he just made himself look like an idiot. His lawyer did however, ask if me and Lily could fly out to Virginia for the holidays and stay with them. That would make me feel incredibly uncomfortable, not to mention having to be on a plane for that long with a toddler in my life. I didn't tell him to move, so it's only fair that he come here if he wants to see his daughter. Obviously they can't make me go, so I told them no and my reasoning. He's almost 4 months behind on court-ordered child support as well. The judge told him that if he wanted priveldges, he needed to pay to help support her. I still haven't gotten my next court date in the mail, but I'm almost positive it will be before Christmas since he wants her for Christmas. We shall see...